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Breaking Up With Your Partner

May 17th, 2016

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It comes to us all usually at some stage in our lives and breaking up with your partner can be tricky and very difficult to handle. Those things that we all take for granted are always going to be shared, suddenly aren’t and whether it is waking up alone in the mornings, coming home to an empty house at night, eating alone, even shopping alone can seem upsetting and hard to contend with. In London, it can often seem even more daunting, as so many people seem to be alone and it might make you wonder if a new partner is ever going to surface.

The good news is, although we all recover differently and at a different rate of healing, time is a great healer and we do get there eventually. The first 3 weeks are probably the hardest and most people find that they do tend to talk about their ex during that time, often driving friends mad as a consequence. We are wondering if romance can be re-kindled, how your ex is feeling and how he or she is getting on without you. And don’t worry wanting to talk of them so much is natural and is part of the healing process, as we try to ‘wash that man (or woman) right out of our hair.’

Having talked to the experts however, here are 5 hints and tips to move on positively and without it impacting on your friends massively.

  1. Stop talking about him or her – do learn to move on as soon as you can, if it wasn’t working before the break up, it’s unlikely that it will again, so let it go and look forward to something new and fresh.
  2. Laugh more – laugh at yourself to start it off if needs be and try to surround yourself with positive, jolly people, who are fun to be with.
  3. Get out and about and do things – visit old friends that you may have not had time for previously, you will be surprised how welcoming and supportive they will be
  4. Create a better you – stop eating those carbs, treat yourself to some new clothes, re-join the gym and put your most positive face on.
  5. Be aware that a new romance could help too – being seen with someone fresh and new can be great therapy. So don’t worry about .being on the rebound – if it feels good and it helps do it. They may not be right for you at first, but if you’re enjoying meeting new people and it helps, then eventually Mr or Ms Right will show up.

But the meantime – just enjoy having some fun in your life again.