November 8th, 2024
One moment everything seems wonderful, you are enjoying the feeling of being in an exciting new relationship with a special someone, and the next moment they have simply gone from your life with no trace, no longer responding to messages and not picking up if you call. You may even find you have been blocked as a contact, with no explanation. You have been well and truly ghosted.
Ghosting can be a gut-wrenching experience that we find challenging to deal with as it is typical to be left searching for answers and perhaps to look to ourselves to blame. So why does ghosting sometimes happen, and what can you do if this has happened to you, to lessen the impact and move on? Unfortunately, ghosting is increasingly common in today’s dating culture and occurs for all kinds of reasons. People can fear conflict, they may be poor at communicating how they feel and therefore, find it easier to simply avoid a difficult conversation when, for whatever reason, they have decided a relationship is no longer working for them.
The ghoster may have thought to avoid having to experience potentially hurting you or having to explain themselves, so finds it easier to do nothing, just to slip away passively and may suppose you will realise they no longer want to be in a relationship with you, due to their inaction or disconnection. They may justify the act of ghosting you to themselves, because it is becoming more common these days and maybe because it has been done to them in the past.
Whatever the possible explanations, ghosting is often hurtful, and it can take time to recover from it, but there are steps you can take to start feeling better if someone who you thought was important in your life, has acted in this way.
Firstly, realise this really is not about you. It’s about them and how they were feeling. The person who ghosted you was the transgressor here. They did not demonstrate respect, good communication or thoughtfulness, but the opposite, by simply disappearing from your life, so they were not really the right person for you anyway.
Do not blame yourself and do not let yourself put up barriers to avoid getting hurt again, as this could make forming future relationships more difficult for you.
These things need time to process, so make sure you take that time to focus on your own wellbeing. Love yourself first, remind yourself about what you enjoy doing as an individual or with friends or family, before looking again for someone who deserves your love.
If you’re ready to explore the dating world again, or even for the first time, then contact our dating experts at Ultimate Attraction. We’re a professional matchmaking agency committed to creating meaningful connections for like minded individuals. Who knows, your perfect partner might be just around the corner!
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